I’m sure you are celebrating Valentine’s Day with cake, roses, and champagne, and I wish you a lot of happiness in life.
It is not Friday today, but I think of you because it is a special day. Social media discusses variants of love—from self-love to canine love to love in relationships other than romance and marriage.
1. KNOW WHAT YOU LOVE
I invite you to list the loves of your life from 1-10.
Let it flow down. It doesn’t matter if you stop at 3, 4, 5…., or whatever and do not reach 10.
Here are a few people, things, and concepts to consider. This is just a messy list, and you can add more items.
Husband/Partner
Parents
Son/Daughter
Career
Hobby
Chocolate
Reading
Watching TV
My future self
Note that I do not say ‘self’, but future self.
I love myself as I am today, but where do I want to be in future? What do I want to be in future?
I do not ask you to rate the above items in order because it is difficult.
Several things compete for the topmost slot when I build a favourite list.
I can hear my screams.
How can I rate my relationship or child below my career? It’s not fair. I can’t be so heartless or non-committal or undependable.
We want everything. Fair enough!
2. WHAT ARE YOU WORKING ON EVERY SINGLE DAY OF YOUR LIFE?
Write the quantum of time you spend on each of your loves, and allocate a percentage.
What is the percentage of your waking hours allocated to your Future Self?
Forget what you are doing about it. Effectiveness comes next. Just think how much time you are devoted to fulfilling your dreams.
3. REPETITION IS NOT BORING
See the diagram below. It is taken from one of Bob Proctor’s videos, where he says repetition is the only way to manifest anything in your life. If you don’t repeat, you wander off to spaces that do not contribute to achieving your own goal.
I will give the link to another short video by Bob Proctor to re-emphasize the value of repetition.
The point is to do something every day.
Scan for a site or group where you find like-minded people on a similar mission.
Look for job postings. Apply. Check where you stand in the competition.
Look for online re-skilling courses. Join those. Complete those.
Contact people in your network to learn what’s happening that is of interest to you.
Set up a Google feed for articles of interest, and read at least five daily.
4. THE MOST DIFFICULT THING IN MY LIFE
Well-meaning friends are calling me to check on my activities. The trigger could be the lockdown or my husband's travel for work.
They understand if I discuss paid assignments and respect my time and space. They are sympathetic when I talk about managing without domestic help during COVID-19.
They don’t understand my writing, content creation for my own sites, online learning, volunteering, or unpaid work.
I actively seek to either eliminate these people or spend less time interacting with them. It sounds rude, but I’m pretty candid in my conversation that I do not want to be on the ‘time-passers’ bandwagon.
5. GOAL-SETTING
If goal-setting seems confusing, use the technique in the video below to determine priorities and create a plan of action. It applies to all kinds of goals, not just financial ones.
So, the message here, gals, is to love yourself and work on yourself and your future self.
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